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Everyone has to deal with jealous people, haters, and bitter. Be it Cindrella, Snowhite or Rapunzel, every fairytale story had some extremely jealous villains. How can we be untouched by feelings of jealousy? The cause of the Mahabharata war was nothing but greed and jealousy of Duryodhana. Mother Theresa, the well-known Catholic nun who dedicated her life to caring for the poor, was also targeted with criticism and hostility. Haters will always exist, regardless of who you are or what kind of positive impact you are trying to have on the world. Having a jealous friend can hurt even more because their behavior and emotional outbursts are not courteous or loving. We take it more personally when it comes from a friend or family member. One can cultivate healthy relationships by how to deal with jealous people and haters head-on and using the following techniques to help them get over their jealousy. 

Don’t take it personally 

Some people have so little going on in their lives, they would rather discuss yours. So,try not to take it personally. Be aware that a person’s jealousy of you is entirely their concern rather than yours. Believe in your abilities. Don’t let someone envious undermine your self-assurance or cause you to doubt yourself. Continue to do what you’re doing and don’t let others get in your way. We must realize, though, that it is not our fault that they are jealous; rather, their underlying problems are to be blamed. 

Acknowledge people and do honest self-reflection and introspection 

Acknowledge people and do honest self-reflection

Complimenting them while also acknowledging that differences exist, and that they are normal and acceptable will help to reduce their insecurities. You can’t make someone happy by complimenting them, but by providing them with positive feedback, you can help disarm their jealousy-based negative comments. 

Some individuals, especially your closest friends, do have a thorough understanding of your weaknesses. You start acting aggressively and defending yourself if someone discovers this weak spot. Not because they said anything undesirable about you, but rather because you secretly believe they could be correct. You may be most negatively affected by this if you keep getting sucked into it. To deal with those who wish to harm you by highlighting your frailties, however, the best course of action is to remain calm and make an effort to properly assess the situation. 

Also, it is vital to openly communicate with the jealous person to tackle the envy. Have an open and honest discussion about it. Make sure that both parties have an opportunity to explain their point of view, and don’t blame each other for your emotions. Avoid approaching the person when you’re upset, such as right after an argument or a jealousy attack. 

In the technological age, we now live in it is very simple to dislike someone

dislike someone

In the age of social media, it has become much simpler for people to defame people they know or even people they do not know while hiding behind a computer screen. 

A large portion of these slurs stems from jealousy, which is motivated by the person’s feelings of inadequacy or dissatisfaction with their own life. They use social media as a protected platform  to insult others. However, social media has the power of a delete button. If someone makes a negative comment about you on your page or forum, delete it. Still, their behavior continues, we can unfriend or block them. If you can’t delete their comments, block the person so you don’t have to deal with them. They will no longer be able to see you in the online forum, so they will have to direct their jealousy and hatred elsewhere. You do not have to put up with online bullies. 

Be kind to jealous people 

Being polite and kind is an excellent strategy if you think someone’s rudeness might be motivated by jealousy. If you suspect that someone’s coldness is motivated by jealousy, kindness is an excellent tool. This can demonstrate to the person that you are caring and trustworthy, allowing them to relax their guard or recognize that they are projecting their feelings onto you. You can make it a point to always include them in emails or conversations, and your persistence may enable them to discover more about themselves. This can also help you avoid responding in such a way that fuels their anger and frustration. So when it comes to deal with jealous people kindness is a way to go.

Use kindness and empathy when speaking to them. To boost their self-esteem, you can complement them on things you genuinely like, find interesting, or admire about them.

Just be your natural self 

Just be your natural self

Having detractors can occasionally be a sign that you are living a successful life and doing the right things. Jealous people want what you have for themselves because they are aware of your success. They spend their time trying to undermine others rather than working to improve their own lives. They try to find flaws in those they perceive to be superior to them to justify their insults, criticism, and hatred toward those they perceive to be superior to them. Do not let these people bring you down. Continue to be yourself and be successful. Don’t let someone else’s failures bring you down or keep you from pursuing your goals. 

Life does not require you to be friends with everyone you meet or come into contact with. Some nasty people in the world will never be happy with their own lives and so constantly insult and hate others. Stay away from their drama and slurs. 

Keep getting better

Keep getting better

Although some individuals will make every effort to undermine you, you must never stop getting better. This is evidence that you are superior to them, not that they are superior to you. Your critics will probably turn into your biggest supporters, if you keep getting better. Let your performance do the talking. You’ll soon realize that your best fans are also your biggest critics.  

Reduce negative interactions with your detractors

Limit your contact with jealous people, or avoid them entirely, because you are worthy of a loving relationship. Ignore such people, just like you do with youtube adds.  There are a lot of people in the world. Life is too short, and many people in the world would benefit from a good friend or relationship. People who act this way out of jealousy will eventually change if and when they realize that no one wants to be around their negativity. 

If the situation is so bad that it is affecting your mental health and outlook on life, stay away from them and consider changing jobs. Do not let someone’s negativity disrupt your life. 

Focus on relationships that encourage and support you

Focus on relationships that encourage and support you

You cannot make everyone happy. There will always be people who are envious or hostile toward you. Everyone, no matter who they are, has detractors. Rather than attempting to persuade these people to like you, devote your time and energy to encouraging relationships. In a sea of Jiyaans choose your doremon. The 30/30/30 rule can be used to deal with your haters and jealous people. You must be crystal clear in your understanding that 30% of people will always like you, 30% will hate you, and 30% will never have an opinion. This means that you should always act how you want regardless of what other people may think of you or your actions. You need to constantly work on improving yourself. When someone gives you bad feedback, just think of the other 70% of people who believe in you.  Choose to surround yourself with people who encourage and support you in your life endeavors. Encourage those you care about as well. Seek out the relationships in your life that uplift, encourage, and assist you in becoming a positive influence in the world. 

Bottom line

Hopefully, you can now see jealousy for what it is: not malicious, but simply a manifestation of a person’s insecurity or feeling of insecurity. And, to some extent, a part of the human experience. Like all emotions, envy has a function and cannot and should not be eliminated. Our desires and our sources of pleasure are communicated to us by the emotion of envy. It’s not always necessary to accuse someone of being envious. We are indeed in charge of teaching ourselves how to control our emotions positively and keep from hurting other people. The next time someone shows signs of jealousy, you know better than to take revenge or react negatively. Just remember what you’ve learned about the psychology of jealousy and how to deal with jealous people. It will almost certainly improve your future relationships.

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